Royals

Dear Candice Ridenour,

(Royal Farms District Leader)

Wow, thanks so much!  I met a young man tonight, at the same Royal Farms location, his name was Trey.  I felt AWFUL for him, there was a SEA of garbage all over the lot and he had already two bags of garbage and was going after all he could gather.  I approached him and told him about my comment a week or so ago, and told him I appreciated what he was doing, as it was awful and crazy to have that much garbage all over the lot.  He stated this is ridiculous and he is ABSOLUTELY right, that much garbage being left on the concrete and grounds of Royal Farms when there are garbage cans, truly it will burn out the employees you have and I sympathize.


Please pass on to Trey that I noticed his efforts, I am writing a letter to the editor of the Seaford Star as well as posting on my blog as well, that will highlight how great you and Trey were in relating to this feedback and I appreciate your concern and time you took to reach me.  Trey, despite facing an onslaught of garbage, was methodically taking care of the all the mess, but honestly, he should not have to be responsible for the laziness and disregard for the Royal Farms property with that much garbage.  People that frequent Royal Farms need to also help to make this an easier process and I am going to highlight that.  Please pass on to Trey what a noticeable job he was doing and he was not taken for granted! 
Thanks so much!

The above letter was a followup to a comment I sent to Ms. Ridenour two weeks ago, I was at the Royal Farms on the Main Street of Seaford, it was super early, around 7:00 AM, and there was lot of noticeable garbage all over the concrete pad and it was alarming, that early and it, along with several all concerning aspects were part of that letter I sent to Royal Farms.

Within one day I received feedback from Ms. Ridenour and she was gracious, concerned, and attentive to letting know things needed to be addressed regarding what I noticed. This is not small matter in a time where many businesses are struggling to just get by, let alone trying to operate there businesses in an efficient manner.

In addition, the young man, Trey, I came across tonight amid a literal sea of garbage, and his huge stack of already filled garbage – and not even close to truly having the rest of the area completed, there had been garbage tossed in almost every single corner of the property, it is not very difficult to see how ridiculous was was to even assume it was possible to enjoy this aspect of getting through the night and the shift he was on.

One big as, as a community member of the Seaford community, please stop by and let Trey and anyone else know they are doing a good job, as well help look out and remind everyone they can help the employees we see doing work that many would not enjoy. It is vital to let Try and others know, the little details they do are not little at all, they are huge. We live in a community where it is easy to look at the negative and put down where we leave, when in reality, we live in a pretty historical and amazing community where there is sop much talent and opportunity, and packed with home town feeling that has not even been close to being released to its full potential.

It is easy to get lost in the swirl of development and constant building, but what is vital it the opportunity to preserve the already beautiful aspects that surround us ion the form of parks, nature trails, compliments given to others that help them get through their day, taking a cart in when we are in our way into a store, picking up a small package of garbage that is near our car when we are filling up gas, even offering to help clean a small section of an area you may find yourself in – if my Mom had not been with me this evening, I would have taken 20 minutes to also help Trey cover such a vast area of waste left behind by others in just one day.

I feel each of us can do better to help those that are undertaking the cleanup process, be it the recovery from COVID in any business and customer service – we each can play a part in improving the areas we live in, and ultimately, helping all of us grow closer together as a community. Trey, your work is not overlooked and take for granted, thank you, and thank you Ms Ridenour for being so gracious in a touch time to criticisms that you address to improve the look of our Seaford community

It is a weird comparison, but the song Royals came to mind, and just as anyone, of any age, can do a cover of an existing song, from the original to Royals like Lorde, to Megan Nicole and Madilyn Bailey, to a cool version of Royals by Alaa Wardi, to the acoustic cover of Royals by Jake Coco and Corey Gray , to the version of Royals by Relic Hearts , to – okay you get the idea. There are SO MANY ways to reinterpret a song, there are SO MANY ways to reinterpret how we can interpret our own community, play a part in improving and redefining our community, and represent elements of diversity that make countries like Mexico, Europe, and other far fetching locations.

Speaking of Latin American, it is am amazing privilege to have the chance to go to a restaurant like Dios Provee and Dona Maria’s Pupuseria – right here in Seaford! It is so easy to rely on big name chain businesses to bring people to a town, it is even more amazing to celebrate the diverse and unique businesses that one can only find in Seaford – exciting!


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Summer of 2021 was…

…what? Based on a book or film you came across? We would like to know as we gear up for coming back to school, the Woodbridge Library Media Center would like your recommendations – please comment and let us know!

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Five Weeks of Your Life…

…what is possible? In Five Weeks? With months of being isolated, restricted, confined to video as your closest friend – and having a small window of reprieve?

Sometimes the best way to tell you, is to SHOW you. Tonight, it was difficult to explain the emotions and proud of feelings of hearing and seeing students go out of their comfort zone and step into wet bogs, forests, streams, dark woods, insect-filled areas, and the students that could not attend events because they were the primary caregiver of their family and they STILL, from HOME, contributed to the overall task from that same, same environment that had been bearing down on them for months of the year?

“Mr. Brake, I have never been beyond this corner in Seaford?”

“Wait, you have never, ever walked past this corner onto Main Street of Seaford, ever?”

“No! – this is amazing!” – as we were sitting in a restaurant, I pondered how much what many would consider a basic meal, meant to this student, and being on a part of the street they have NEVER been until now, never having seen anything past a specific corner of Seaford? EVER?- This struck me deep and I felt pretty sure, if one person, every person in a community like Seaford, would show any young person that had never had the basic experiences that most take for granted every day – how many more dreamers, creators, and innovators would we have in our community that would take the town by storm and recreate itself?

Unless there is the belief from the leaders, public figures, and a majority of community members in youth, many youth that feel they do not have anything to offer and – poof! an open window appears where they feel things they have never felt, been places they never felt they had the right or way to find – then their lives changing change each of ours.

I am so proud of the risks these students from Math and Science that decided to do a work study that they did not even know if they would be able to take on due to COVID, let alone LOSING THEIR FIRST TWO WEEKS due to rain, and yet, they persevered and showed they had a courage that many will never realize. Without the Math & Science and Classic Upward Bound Programs, in this small window, this would have never happened.

I am hoping others will see what is possible when youth are pushed to the forefront and their dreams become part of our own for the community we live in.

And what about the amazing state employees that believed in these youth and showed up for them to lead them through discoveries that they never thought they would see?

Heroes are among us, and I hope these students will find more.

Five Weeks and here as well as a pdf:

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Obsession Over the Green

Okay. THIS time, no reference to money. Let’s discuss the obsession with lawns.

Honestly, if I saw more merit and benefit to the expanse of lawn in front of my house, beside my house, behind my house, I’d settle on this topic. But I realized, thanks to the encouragement of the Nanticoke Watershed Alliance, there is an even more beneficial reason for having space, and I ran with it.

On June 4th I had decided to take up the bargain to install a Butterfly garden and replace sod in front of my current yard. Sod. That word kind of still makes me cringe, due to the intensity of the job ahead.

Lisa Wool, Sydney Williams, Max Horan, Will Meadows, Robin Weber (Americorps Member) and Meagan Lukehart (Also a member of the Dean’s List of Salisbury University in 2020!) descended miraculously at my residence and worked like crazy, in the dead of the heat to take mounds of sod out and replace with hundreds of pollinator plants.

(And yes, that stack of Hungry Howies? – WELL DESERVED)

What looked like sprouts of asparasgus now are reining in insects, pollinators, and butterflies than I have ever seen. Yesterday I was able to see three monarchs at the same time dancing among the milkweed.

The PR…

…of this type needs to be amplified even more and create more long term effects than bringing in chemicals to maintain a prized lawn – and offers opportunities for youth in the communities to enhance their communities.

I am so appreciative of the ability for the Nanticoke Watershed Alliance to allow this to happen, and less for me, but more for what it can do, if all commit to doing their portion share their portion of residential land to contribute to the very pieces of the environment we so need!

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Blending In or Standing Out in a Difficult Time?

It all comes down to this –  you either stand out with a voice or you blend in with the noise,with these tools and examining the Habits of Mind, Classic Upward Bound and Youth Voices combined to give you a platform, now and into the future, to stand out rather than blend in.

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Kumo…what? Kumospace!!!!

Adding Kumospace into the mix for Classic Upward Bound, Why? Paul explains …

Which room… Classic Upward Bound had options…

But the beach is always nice…

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NowComment? Versus YouthVoices.live?

In digging deeper into a new tool such as Now Comment – Paul explains what Nowcomment.com does for the student opposes to looking at Youthvoices.live:

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YouthVoices.live? Why?

Literally just that – Paul Allison explains why Youthvoices.live matter to Youth today all over the U.S. – in our case – why it matters to Classic Upward Bound in the summer of 2021 !

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Persisting

Persisting

320Success seems to be connected with action. 1Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they never quit. 1

422Efficacious people stick to a task until it is completed. 1They don’t give up easily. 1They are able to analyze a problem, and they develop a system, structure, or strategy to attack it. They have a repertoire of alternative strategies for problem solving, and they employ a whole range of these strategies. They collect evidence to indicate their problem-solving strategy is working, and if one strategy doesn’t work, they know how to back up and try another. They recognize when a theory or an idea must be rejected and another employed. They have systematic methods for analyzing a problem, which include knowing how to begin, what steps must be performed, what data must be generated or collected, and what resources are available to assist. Because they are able to sustain a problem-solving process over time, they are comfortable with ambiguous situations.

1023Students often give up when they don’t immediately know the answer to a problem. 3They sometimes crumple their papers and throw them away, exclaiming “I can’t do this!” or “It’s too hard!” Sometimes they write down any answer to get the task over with as quickly as possible. 1Some of these students have attention deficits. 1They have difficulty staying focused for any length of time; they are easily distracted, or they lack the ability to analyze a problem and develop a system, structure, or strategy of attack. 3They may give up because they have a limited repertoire of problem-solving strategies, and thus they have few alternatives if their first strategy doesn’t work. 

The above is from an article titled, Learning and Leading with Habits of Mind, Chapter 2. Describing the Habits of Mind by Arthur L. Costa that we use in a program of Nowcomment.com, and can annotate among other high school students and teachers.

After a really really bad night of Wriggley being tended to at the ER in Salisbury, MD, coming through like a champ, and me exhausted, I woke up and examined these habits of mind:

and realized two groups of people came to MY MIND (see what I did there?) Classic Upward Bound students and Cross Country runners. I often see many that are not able to see past today, even tomorrow if they are lucky. But when they catch a glimpse of what the future could bring, (which is a hard thing to change their scope of vision) they become a better runner, student, and shaker and mover.

I could say more, but do not need to, despite 1001 things that often consume our lives, this one quality out of 16 is one of the most enduring and can change a person. I admire that in the students and athletes that keep up the good fight and persist.

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You Miss It Before You Even Realize You Did.

Often. there are days that exist that I have so many thoughts and reflections, it is impossible to put them into words, impossible to formulate how to get it just right in stating how you are feelings.

Oddly, these are the same days that I am overwhelmed with driver after driver not using their turn signal (ESP in driving must be a thing), letting people in front of you without ever a thank you or acknowledgement wave, the days I get calls to help others with tasks that they easily can find out in a few minutes (we’ve all had those) – and of course the just “Murphy’s Law” events that manage to pile up one after one after one.

I have taken to just dropping everything, leaving it all behind, and piling the canines into the vehicle and heading to the beach. I have done this for the last four days and see the need to do so for the next five easily. During these great escapes that are badly needed – I have come to realize so many things and just let the things I needed to say settle down into some brief simplicties.

So many individuals miss the simple things in life like simply hearing the silence of the wind, the trees, the birds, the wind, the water, the tide, and so many very specific sounds due to the noise they continue to make themselves, and round themselves.

So many individuals miss the simple things in life like simply hearing the silence of the wind, the trees, the birds, the wind, the water, the tide, and so many very specific sounds due to the noise they continue to make themselves, and round themselves.

So many individuals miss the simple things in life like simply hearing the silence of the wind, the trees, the birds, the wind, the water, the tide, and so many very specific sounds due to the noise they continue to make themselves, and round themselves. I see them missing it before they even realize the did. Yet they do not even realize what they are missing at all.

The individuals that ride my back bumper pushing me to hurry, hurry, hurry, (metaphorically and in reality) could indeed make you do that very thing, or you can just let those actions roll over you and forcefully ride over you and refuse to let your time be hijacked into the faster timezone that you care to be in, so you will not miss the details that many others miss.

I see this reflected in the scramble to work work work tirelessly for that almighty dollar, and the stress that the economy has put on families to make that priority one. From experience of someone who worked 2- 4 jobs at the same time from high school easily into my 40’s, I do not remember a single moment of the weeks I tried to achieve my highest number of hours for that almighty dollar.

Yet, I still remember some of the quietest, most still moments where I just observed, listened, and took ion what was happening around me, letting me work put my own pace and resisting against the tide of a pace that seemed to catch everyone up in a pace that was expected, and never allowed for reflection, internal peace, a sense of satisfaction.

I find myself more and more willing to build in moments of the day, be it a 20 to 40 minute break, to mornings, evenings, weekend afternoons – that allow nothing but time for me to let me thoughts settle to a lower point – where I can see, reflect on, and feel them – opposed to caught up in a speed race of a moment a minute and then over.

I am grateful for a period in my life where I was able to realize that what was much more important than the number of things I could check off a never ending to do list, was the value of slowly and carefully putting tasks in front of me that I wanted needed, and along the way helping others see a better me in letting my interests also become part of their interests.

There, as I am finding out, is always going to be time to fill in all the time in a day with things that are deemed valuable now, the question is how valuable will those tasks be when I look back 10 years later – and often I am finding in some of those instances, not enough to want me to miss the opportunity I have sitting right in front of me.

If we do not stop to take that picture we thing might be a great shot, take the time to listen to someone when they have something important on their mind, say hello to the person next to you just because, or simply allow yourself to get to know more about what makes you, yourself happy, there is a good chance there are even limited chances to do so in the future as that mentality becomes your new “normal.”

There are so many no guarantees that come with short sighted vision and goals, and often with long sighted vision and goals, space is created to allow those moments of reflection, meditation, and just space to take a breath in and have a chance to enjoy the moment, rather than simply be able to reflect on it in the past. The best opportunities are the latter, when you discover you have the desire to carve out more permanent moments and events that you can truly can look back on and realize the value of the moments that are happening.

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